Zero means a lot to me which is
why it has taken the better part of two weeks to answer the
request to put something together about it for Zero
Pictures. I was elated last summer when my friend Michael K
(Kastenbaum) called to announce the winning name for his
production company was Zero Pictures. For shortly before,
while my son Tiger and I were his houseguests en route home
to Hawai'i he had actively questioned my use of the word
"zero" rather than "no" or "not" in some form. As well a
some of my other uses of "zero". We had many discussions
about it and as we say in Hawai'i it is time to talk
The average child hears "no" or "don't" 40,000-50,000 times
before the age of five. This works out to about 30-40 times
a day from birth on. When I heard this information while I
was carrying my first child Tiger, it upset me. It seemed
there was entirely too much negativity being passed on to
children from day one and the concurrent effect on their
lives in hearing so many "no's" and "don't's". I resolved to
find another way to communicate and to pass on clear
language skills to my yet to be born child.
At the time I was already creating/discovering a new
language technology called Language Sculpting. One of its
fundamental qualities is that it allows us to create
coherent realities through the conscious use of language. As
I was about to start language sculpting a friend's book I
saw in meditation what happens very literally when we hear
the "not" word. Our brain "k'nots" up and gets all tightly
bound energetically. Our thinking slows down as we have
trouble turning around in our own minds because of this
"k'notted" condition. As well, we are closed off from
contact beyond ourselves at the more subtle levels. To me
this reflected my own profound sense most of my life of
I would wonder how that could be as there were people around
me to be with. Yet I felt alone because some kind of inner
sense of connection had been cut off. The "k'nots" had bound
me up and separated me from contact with other sentient
life. As this was shown to me I also saw that in addition to
being isolated by this individually and collectively, the
Earth was isolated as well.
In a sense we were a planet "adrift in space" yearning to
make contact with other life; the great aloneness here on
earth being very heavy for our hearts.
As well as being "adrift" the Earth was also surrounded by a
smoky cloud. This in part was due to our "negative"
thinking. This particular cloud was created by our language
and the "negative" realities we created by our use of
"nots". I say "negative" insofar as we use "nots" like this,
"Don't run into the street you'll get hurt","I don't want to
die","Don't hang up","Don't leave me" and so on. In language
sculpting terms this style of communicating is called
"common usage of the language".
This common usage of the language is pervasive in our
culture. We see that much of life is/has been framed in a
negative way. We rarely hear people say "I don't want to
have a great holiday" or "I don't want that raise", or "I
don't want my children to be healthy/happy".
While the "nots" "k'notted" us up they also "snagged" the
words that came after "not". For example, "Don't drink and
drive", is often heard as "Drink and drive". The "not" is
blipped out in some fashion and the words that follow are
heard. And the thoughtform of drinking and driving is
pictured. What you wanted to avoid is what is attracted.
As for the "no" word using "no" so often stops something fun
(especially for a child) from taking place. "No" blocks the
flow. Saying "yes" sounds good, feels good. Saying "zero"
leaves things neutral. "Zero" opens the flow by letting
other choices be available.
What would we and the world be like if we had heard "yes"
lots more and "zero" when appropriate? Just exploring those
questions in our body we can each feel for ourselves how
much better those words feel than "no" and "don't".
At the time this was all being shown to me "zero" had yet to
make its appearance in my vocabulary except in its use as
the number. My son Tiger had made his appearance though and
I was applying my resolve to help him acquire clear language
When we use clear language to ourselves and others we create
clear "thoughtforms". With a child, its ability to follow
through on a request is easier and more direct when we say
this, "Please remember to brush your teeth" rather than
"Don't forget to brush your teeth." I call this shifting of
the language, language sculpting. There is a clear picture
of remembering to brush the teeth. So easy for a child to
And this is what my intention was - to communicate in such a
way that it would be easy for a child to follow through. As
a child wires in language they are also wiring in their
bodies. It is apparent that we can help them by our own
clarity and awareness of what we are creating with our use
of language. In terms of communicating to a new child, using
open language, clear picture language helps them be coherent
in that their action matches words, matches intention. They
are 'wired' for completion.
This way with children we can say to them, "Have a good time
bike riding" and we know they know exactly what that means.
They will have fun and come back in the same good way they
left. So much of this is for the children, so that we can
help them create, and grow up in a better way, in a better
world than we did. And for the child in us.
By this time Tiger was four and we had lived on Hawai'i for
over a year. During that time I heard the neighborhood
children saying what sounded like "not" in response to any
number of questions. It was like a school kid's answer to
things in general. After a while it sounded more like they
were saying "nought". Then I realized they were saying
I was curious about what they were truly communicating so I
went to my dictionary. It seems that the "zero" was one
meaning of the word "naught". I liked the sound of that
better. I thought "Aha! I have found my answer to using
"no". I can say "zero" instead." And this is how "zero" came
In the five years since then there have been many
explorations about the use of language sculpting and the use
of "zero" and "yes". I like to promote the use of "Yes" to
what we want or wish for like, "Yes" to a world that lives
in harmony. When we say "Yes" it is usually for something
yummy. I am known as the mommy who says "Yes". To review
this then: "K'nots" knot us up and separate us, "No's" block
the flow, "Yes" is what we say to yummy and "Zero" brings us
back to the place of the openness and possibilites.
It seems paradoxical to me that this is so, yet when we say
"Zero let my wallet be in my pants back home" that somehow
that whole statement flies through the "zero" place and the
other possible realities for where the wallet might be are
available. This is how we get to create new realities with
the use of "zero". When we ask the question "I wonder where
my wallet is?" that leaves an opening to go to the
"I don't want another messy divorce" sounds like a message
to the universe to send another messy divorce. To be really
clear we might say "I want this divorce to be civilized,
honouring the great affection that truly exists between us."
This kind of shift is called sculpting a new reality. It
goes to a higher truth about what is taking place. Life
changes, partners change so that we may grow and see
ourselves in new ways. In sculpting a new reality in this
way we are empowered to see/experience things more
consciously. The more light and love we bring to life's
experiences, the greater the light and love available for
all. So that changing partners is seen as natural, that we
have much love to share and experience in many places, is a
given. Life moves on as a flow.
Specific neurochemicals are generated when we think, hear or
speak words. When words feel good then they stimulate the
production of feel good (yummy) neurochemicals. It makes
sense that when we say words that generate yummy
neurochemicals we feel better. As we feel better then we
perceive our life and the world in a better way, which in
turn helps us create more yummy neurochemicals which helps
us create/perceive a better world view and so on.
Changing our use of language can influence our life
profoundly. As it does then our world changes profoundly,
experientially and actually. Together even a few committed
people can influence the world deeply by using this
conscious approach to their language. There is a kind of
ripple effect because of the harmonics involved in
expressing our higher consciousness intentionally.
This is because everything entrains to the highest frequency
- ultimately. The zero point being the intersection of light
and love is a very high frequency.
Because the outer world is a reflection of our inner world
then by stilling ourselves and going to the zero point we
influence the world's state. Going to this zero state
resonates with the zero state of what surrounds us as it is
a higher, more stable vibration as well as fundamental to
all life. It is like this is ground zero, where it all
springs from. Love. Light. Coming into manifestation.
The concept of going to a zero state as an intention to
bestill myself came to me recently. When something comes up
that can fluster or really upset me I tell myself to go to
zero. It is like resetting an innate mechanism that restores
internal silence, reconnects with the inner unity, and
allows me to stay centered in the moment as well as in the
center of my being. This center is the interface between my
soul and its expression through me in my life, in this
world, this moment.
This is what zero feels like - very still. I call this the
zero meditation. It is also a stillness meditation. It is
really lots of fun because it is magical in how quickly
situations can change in the moment as the zero state is
reestablished and I feel myself going still.
What is magical is when the situation changes so quickly it
does a 180 degree shift because we have reset ourselves to
zero. This magic is because this intersection where light
and love meet is the present, the eternal now. I see it as
the origin, the center, the birthing place of a coordinate
system within my self where it seems as though they
intersect at (zero,zero).
From this place within myself all things are possible again.
I can sculpt the new reality I wish to create. I have full
mobility within myself as I have opened the "k'nots" and
"no's" to "zeros" or "yesses". The flow and the connection
are reestablished. The Great Oneness begins from zero.
When we reset to absolute zero whatever is going on is
rolled over. It is a coherent wave/field of consciousness
that is like a soliton effect where everywave of it is taken
up by the great wave and where it is like the event horizon
of the blackhole where everything around is drawn unto
itself. This is Light and Love meeting in the moment at the
zero place within ourselves as we go into our hearts, into
the heart of matter. This makes us quantum beings, beings
able to influence matter by being integral parts of
This is some of what zero means to me.
Love and aloha from Paradise - Sirius Connection 420
Original ZERO article
*To my beloved Michael K and the pod at Zero Pictures